Pre-marital Counseling

Pre-marital Counseling 

Following subjects have to teach and discuss with Couples who are ready to get married

1.               Concept of Marriage:

I.                Term of marriage

II.              Meaning of marriage

III.           Definition of marriage

IV.          Couples theory – Islamic and other perspective

V.             History of marriage – (Islamic history)

VI.         Types of marriage (Legal and Illegal)

VII.      Need of marriage
  a.               Physical needs
  b.              Psychological needs
  c.              Social needs
  d.              Spiritual needs (Islamic perspective)
  e.             Cultural needs

VIII.       Suitable marriage age (Development psychology - adulthood)

IX.             Who are involving in marriage rituals   
 

   a.               Bride

   b.               Groom

   c.               Vali

   d.               Registrar (Legal perspective)

   e.               witness   

   f.                 Religious leader

2.       Selection criteria of partner

I.                  Islamic guidance with Quran and Hadeed.

II.               What are the qualities we have to concentrate when we are start to search a person (Bride/Groom)

III.            How to getting ready for marriage (not impotent food, dress, hall)

a.               Psychological readiness ( going to be with a men/ women in a bed room)
b.              Physical readiness (have to remove hair under privet parts)

c.              Spiritual readiness ( dhuas)

d.              Social readiness

..      First day and night with partner

4.      Who is husband (Male)

             
I      Name and definition of husband
II             Character
III            Qualities

IV            Husband (male)
a.               Physical
b.                Psychological Structure, different, thinking pattern,
c.                Social  acceptance, emotions and special corrector.  
d.               Spirituals                         

V          Duties and Responsibility
a. Responsibility with wife
b. Responsibility with child
c. Responsibility with both parents
d. Responsibility with both families in Islamic perspectives.

5.      Who is Wife (Female)

I      Name and definition of wife
II             Characters

III            Qualities

IV            Wife (Female)
a.                Physical
b.               Psychological Structure, different, thinking pattern,
c.               Social acceptance, emotion and special corrector. 
d.              Spirituals 

     

    V  Duties and Responsibilit
 a.     Responsibility with husband
b.      Responsibility with child
c.      Responsibility with both parents
 d.     Responsibility with both families in Islamic perspectives.

           
VI  Understand the Male and Female)

6.      Relationships and Role

I.             Husband and wife relationships

II.           Mother and son

III.        Father and daughter

IV.        Marriage relationships

7.      Budgeting and family planning

I.                    Income

II.                  Expensive

III.               Saving

IV.                Leisure time

V.                  Work and life balance

VI.                Family time

8.      Model home.

9.      Communication and  Problem-solving

10.  Divorce

Pre- Marital counseling package developed for WAMY by:

Ms. Thahir Noorul Isra 

(Psychiatric Social Worker, Counselor and Rehabilitation officer)

No: 139/3, Central Road, Colombo -12

israanas@gmail.com (077-6231276)